THERE are many enemies of love and hundreds of spouses everywhere have been left crying after their best friend snatched their lover.
A lot of stories continue to surround the issue of lovers being snatched by their spouses’ best friends.
A story is told of how one man, upon hearing that his late wife once had an affair with his best friend who had since relocated to another country, went and shot at his wife’s grave in anger over the betrayal.
Of course the people that need to be condemned the most are the spouses who accept to be ‘snatched.’
Instead of helping preserve their friend’s marriages, some best friends end up playing enemy by being the people who go out of their way to actually seduce and snatch their friend’s husband or wife.
These are friends that always want to be noticed by their friends’ spouses and are people usually trusted by the couple who don’t even hide anything from them.
They SMS, phone, and freely talk to either spouses without any suspicion and yet their intention is to destroy their friends’ marriages.
Many spouses only wake up to a rude shock when it is too late just to find that their ‘trusted’ best friend has snatched their spouse.
Some of these best friends who snatch husbands explain that they do so out of sympathy towards the party who is being mistreated in a relationship.
Others explain that they snatch these spouses because they feel an urge to own all the good things no matter what the consequences are.
Today, the vice is common within female friends who go on to perform despicable acts to steal their colleagues’ boyfriends at any cost such as consulting witch doctors, back stabbing and seduction.
Marital counselors, however, explain that such kind of behaviour usually emanates from lack of self control.
“We all have emotions but what is important is to learn how to control those emotions when they want to go overboard,” one counselor said.
Such relationships have also destroyed these so called ‘best friends’ who snatch their friends’ spouses.
The marital experts explain that such people lose all the respect, trust and integrity they had among their other friends.
Destroying the relationship between their spouse and their friend also continues to pain such people.
“Although, I have since changed but what happened between me, my husband and his friend has continued to haunt me. Many other people around also do not trust me around their husbands. I lost all the trust and the dignity I had,” one lady confessed.
While snatching another person’s spouse may be exciting in the beginning, experts explain that the pain, shame and embarrassment that comes up later is not worth such kind of an experience.
Those whose spouses cheat suffer heartbreak and everything else they have sacrificed for the relationship.
Most couples neglect their marriage relationships and take each other for granted hence creating a loophole for their best friends to take over their marriages.
Couples should be careful and always work at loving, respecting and fulfilling each others’ needs.
Many spouses are reluctant to trust their best friends with their spouses for fear of losing them to these friends.
While it may appear as if these spouses are being untrusting of their spouses but the issues of best friends snatching their friends’ spouses is very real.
Not too long ago, one woman narrated how her best friend ‘stole’ her husband.
She explained that one day her husband forgot his phone at home and she decided to go through that phone.
To her amazement she discovered a lot of sexual messages from her best friend to her husband.
“This lady who was writing all these love messages to my husband was supposed to be my best friend and I was shocked that she was actually sleeping with my husband.”
“I saw how this so called best friend of mine started flirting with my husband and how he tried to resist until he finally fell for her tricks,” she said.
The lady further explained how she felt so angry when she found her best friend’s half naked pictures in her husband’s phone.
“I decided not to confront him when he came back from work to pick up his phone but I just decided to pretend that all was well.” she said.
The lady decided to give her husband the silent treatment until one day he came back home and confessed that he was having a relationship with her best friend.
He explained how she lured him into the affair and how guilty he had been feeling all these months because of that affair.
She said her husband apologised about that affair and asked for help from the wife to move on and to date the marriage has continued to flourish.
Marital experts advise couples to avoid letting their best friends too close to their spouses.
These best friends usually start feeling envious of their friends’ marriages and begin planning to take over the relationships.
When one finds themselves in this situation, marital experts advise finding the perfect way of releasing the anger other than engaging in Gender Based Violence.
It is also necessary for the betrayed spouse to avoid any manner of contact with the two as out of sight and out of mind will help.
One may also try to get new friends and avoid plotting to revenge.
No betrayal is easy to deal with but the above tips will go a long way in cushioning the impact.
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