PLANNING a wedding without a clear game plan can be overwhelming. How you and your partner want your wedding to go must be considered and talked about before you attempt to plan the celebration.
Once you both settle on the overall theme and concept, everything will fall into place much easier. A wedding planner can help you create the wedding of your dreams but don’t forget to do your homework first.
We all start dreaming about how we want our wedding to be at a very tender age, although we do not know with who but what we know is that there will be a memorable wedding. As we attend wedding celebrations with our parents it continues to give us a clear picture about how a real wedding is lovely to have and to hold.
With the above mentioned in mind don’t hold back as you start dreaming of your wedding day, let anything inspire you. Don’t worry about how to make it work or the costs associated with what you are dreaming of and which mouth. Immediately you get engaged set the wedding date so that you have a date line.
Will it be an indoor or outdoor venue, how big will it be, everyone you know or just close family members and friends. Weather the guest list should be between 100-300 people you must put it into consideration. These things will allow you to picture your ideal wedding day and get you closer to making decisions. Anything that inspires you, keep it.
Planning a wedding that’s totally you requires you to collect common inspiration pieces to help you realise how certain aspects will look together. Remember, the more specific your theme the better, as this will make it easier to narrow down details and explain them to your wedding planner using your relationship to inspire the theme is a great idea.
Did you meet with your spouse at a wedding, fundraising braai, where you enjoying a football match, at a church gathering or in a bus? These memories and details can help create a tight theme and consistent concept.
That unique connection shared by a couple getting married is on display for all to see, and colour is one of the most powerful ways to set the mood. Colours chosen naturally evoke certain emotions and feelings.
The colour sets the tone for everything at a wedding, not only is it the basis for the majority of décor and attire decisions for a couple, it sets the tone, mood and personality for the day from to finish.
This is the easiest way to create a consistent wedding is with a unifying colour palette, what colours you are naturally attracted to on the colour wheel? Most wedding stick to a main colour and an accent colour or even two complementary colours like green and orange but don’t limit yourself to just two colours. Adding neutral or metallic touch will create a beautiful colour scheme.
For wedding favors create something that will last long after your big day. Give the invited guest a personalised favor to take home and they will never forget about you and the memorable wedding they celebrated with you.
The ring bearer can carry the rings tied with a ribbon to a special book, Bible or anything that gives you happy memories instead of a ring cushion.
Music is the food of love that is why we never get enough of it and it has a powerful influence in our lives and our relationship. Choose a song that speaks to your relationship and your personalities to walk down the aisle.
Inform your pastor or marriage officiator is good time, for them to prepare the marriage lessons for you in time and help you with the vows. This affords you the opportunity also for a personalised ceremony with meaningful photos and memories.
A bridal bouquet is often the most sentimental of a bride’s wedding day accessories, you can do away with fresh or artificial flowers bouquet and just carry a clutch or nothing at all, and it’s your day.
As you plan a wedding that is totally you, play around with the table numbers. Names of your family members, friends, Zambian towns, food can be used in place of table numbers. A cake baker can make for you a wedding cake with flavors that you really love so that it leaves sweet memories in your lives and your invited guests.
Early 2000 we used to have a lot of wedding games, but now they have faded away. The reception wedding games cheer up the guests and makes the mind active. Some games are how well you know the couple questionnaire, for married couples it was how well you know your spouse just by touching their hand while blind folded and food competition.
The wedding gown should speak volumes, let it be designed with you in mind and it should fit you like a glove. Equally with the groom he should look elegant and not like he’s swimming in yards of materials. The entire bridal party should look exactly the way you had dreamt your wedding day.
When planning a wedding that totally represent you, the most important thing to consider is what best represents you and what you value most as the bride and groom.
Wedding are very special days and they should represent who you are and you fiancé. It’s 2015 and brides and grooms are no longer bound by the 1970’ tradition. It is your wedding day and nobody can take those memories away from you.
I received a text from an anonymous young lady and this is what she had to say. I’m a young lady, whose looking for a right partner and very inspired for the effort and lessons on your memorable wedding that are in the newspaper. I have learnt a lot about love, continue doing the same, may God bless you.
Thank you very much for reading the column and continue buying the Sunday times. It’s good to learn that not only have you learnt about wedding planning but love also. To all young ladies and gentlemen remember that as you are looking for a right partner, be the right partner also. Many are looking for right partners and yet themselves are wrong partners. Write down the qualities that you want in your partner and write down your qualities and see where you need to improve and delete the unwanted habits. Don’t expect marriage life to change you.
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