DEAR Josephine
I have been following your advice on this page, and I can attest that you offer wise counsel.
I am a retired sales manager who has settled on a farm in Lusaka West where I am rearing chickens and growing vegetables.
My second wife has just been offered a job as a secretary by some company. I am against her taking up this job although I don’t have a good reason to give to stop her. The truth is that I don’t want
her to be sleeping with the boss the way I used to sleep with my secretaries, including married women, when I was manager. What should
I do to dissuade her from taking up this job that would expose her to other men?
Mr JM
Lusaka

Dear JM
I pity you for being promiscuous and plucking what I call Dutch courage to flaunt your womanising past by confessing of sleeping with your secretaries when you were manager. Let your innocent wife take up this job you, selfish man! If you are promiscuous, it doesn’t mean
everybody is.

I DON’T CONDOMISE
Dear Josephine
I tested positive for HIV/AIDS sometime back in 2007 when I lost my first wife to the same disease. I have kept this fact from my fiancé whom I want to marry. The problem is I want to sleep with her but I don’t want to use a condom because I am naturally not used to wearing one. What should I do?
Jay T
Kalulushi

Dear Jay T
I wish I could trace you and involve the police and relatives of the poor girl you want to marry and infect with HIV. What a selfish man you are! Please spare the poor girl and disclose you status right away.

MY HUBBY’S WEAK IN BED
Dear Josephine
I am a young woman of 38 years old. I have been married for 12 years to my husband with whom I have four children. The problem is, he is very weak in bed, something that has been bothering me since I married him. My aunt gave me some aphrodisiac which he has to chew to boost his libido. The problem is I don’t want to give him this aphrodisiac for fear he will take offence. What should I do?
Bana Jane
Ndola

Dear Bana Jane
I pity you with your husband. I have advised married couples that dialogue is cardinal in a successful marriage. God created sex for procreation and enjoyment in marriage. I don’t see any reason why you should not confront your husband and tell him about his poor performance in marriage although I am against use of aphrodisiacs.
Instead I would suggest you advise him to see a doctor.
HUBBY WANTS DIFFERENT POSITIONS
Dear Josephine
I am a God-fearing Christian who is in a happy marriage. The problem is that my husband has recently been demanding we try different positions (instead of the respectable missionary style) when making love. I find this to be very unChristian and I have told him it is not right to do this although he insists that in marriage you can adopt any sex positions. Is he right?
NK

Dear NK
Your husband is right that in marriage you can adopt any position in your sexual union. Sex was meant for married people and not anywhere does the Bible tell us what style married couples should adopt when having sex.

HE WANTS SECOND WIFE
Dear Josephine
I am married to a very rich man who provides everything that I need.
Problems started recently when he told me that he wants to marry another woman. I cried and told him not to. However, my relatives told me that I am a fool for denying him to marry another woman since he has been massively supportive of our family financially.
Mrs B M

Dear BM
No matter how supportive your husband is, that is not the excuse for him to marry another woman.
If this man really loves you, he should not hurt your feelings by marrying another woman.
Tell him how you feel and threaten to leave him if he insists to take another woman. If you allow him to marry this woman, what will stop
him from marrying a third one or even a fourth one? – Send queries to tellmejosephine@gmail.com