THE road to finding someone to marry might have been rough for some people. After falling in love, one takes his newly find catch to meet parents who end up disliking her intensely and refuses to give blessings.
Three times this has happened with different candidates for marriage, leaving one exasperated, finally in desperation.
If one found a lady who is amazingly like his mother in the way she walks, talks and even look like her, yet only to be disproved by his father.
Finding the right person to love for a lifetime can be one of the greatest challenges in life.
By the time you locate a sane, loyal, mature, disciplined, intelligent, motivated, chaste, kind, attractive and Godly partner, you are too worn out to care.
Furthermore, merely locating a right partner is only half of the assignment, getting that person interested in you is another matter.
I was invited on ZNBC’s Kwacha Good morning Zambia, with the topic of discussion being; “Should spouses share everything including “secrets” with one another?” of course it is No secrets! Unbeknownst to many, a strong definition of marriage is two people becoming one and not two separate people living together.
Whenever this topic is raised, what comes to mind is the story of Samson and Delilah, before you marry decide what kind of a person you will love, their character and faith in God.
Delilah played a minor role in Samson’s life but her effect was devastating.  She influenced him to betray his special calling from God and she valued money more than the relationship, she was effective in betraying the man who trusted her. Marriage is God’s idea and He does not make mistakes.
Congratulations! Now that you have finally found that lovely partner and said ‘I do”, it is time to pack your bags for the honeymoon.
The word “honeymoon” usually conjures up images of beautiful chalets, going overseas or perhaps luxurious tented safari camps and for the rich and famous so that we have something to read about them.
You can just go to a place that not only offers quality time with your new spouse but also has an element of adventure to it, for some, the idea of sunbathing on a beach for weeks is boring and share waste of money as they want more after all, for many a honeymoon is the last holiday you may have together before kids come in.
Planning a perfect honeymoon takes six months, but there’s much to be done. Write a honeymoon countdown calendar and follow it daily so that you are not stressed, on this you can get help from your wedding planner/ consultant. Discuss the type of honeymoon you want, how much time off from work, set a realistic budget include everything from transportation, hotel fees to meals. Do not inform the whole world where you will spend your honeymoon, you will have a lot of uninvited visitors and relatives will come knocking for transport money.
The first few weeks of marriage are not the time to accrue credit, relax and have fun! You are married, the wedding is over and all you have to do now is enjoy each other and your well-deserved vacation and take a lot of photos, don’t forget to send us some.
A honeymoon is an opportunity to go somewhere you have always wanted to go and never want to leave, and a place where they will take care of everything so that you can concentrate on what’s really important, which is each other, plan for the future now that you are married what next, experience something you never thought you would and create memories you will smile about for years to come.
Most importantly, the party does not have to end when the closing prayer is given and the last song played at your reception. With this mind, Zambia has fantastic options of alternative places to make your honeymoon memorable.
It is rainy season, you and your man have tied the knot and what better way to celebrate post wedding than with a dreamy holiday, just the two of you? this time of year our thoughts automatically drift towards indoors, warm holiday and a lot of chocolate, coffee, warm meals and where hospitality meets stylish, yet homely comfort, when you go out it must fill like you are walking on dry ground.
If you are tight on time and budget but still want a honeymoon that offers it all such places can be found here in Zambia also, you can relax, enjoy entertainment and activities, indulge in an abundance of food and make use of sightseeing opportunities. It’s really rather difficult to just stand and watch Zambian traditional ceremonies without smiling, dancing alone or singing, celebrate being in love, married and happy at the biggest celebration of them all. Romance doesn’t always have to be a candlelit dinner at a fancy, expensive restaurant overseas, can also be a stolen moment in a crowded place.
It can take a long time to find the perfect mate, but finding the perfect setting for your wedding is easy. Your honeymoon needs to be priceless, it doesn’t need to be expensive and you can have your wedding and honeymoon all at one place. Going for a honeymoon may sound a little of a cliché, a sheer waste of money; but do that which matter sometimes as you are a newlywed couple; spend quality time together.
There is a myth about going for a honeymoon, some people believe that major conflicts occur when the couple goes for honeymoon because this is where newlywed nonsense begins; they discover that they differ radically on what each partner considers to be non-negotiable issues, such places, beds have been used by different people from all walks of life, demons are found at such places, so a couple chances of divorce are high.
The place where you spend the honeymoon has got nothing to do with your marriage. Marriage can be built or broken by just the two of you. It is important to point out that having a good marriage is the responsibility of each party to the marriage. Secondly, knowing clearly the role of the woman and the man in marriage is fundamental. Most of all, knowing the reason why God instituted marriage must be the chief cornerstone on which to build a successful marriage.
The key to a healthy marriage is to keep your eyes wide open before you wed and half closed thereafter, make the choice of a marital partner carefully, watchfully and prayerfully. Remember the exhilaration you felt when you knew you have found the right one that is how you should feel when you go for your honeymoon.
I got this mail from Kunda Kalunga from Ndola; “Morning and Happy New Year, I read your article titled ‘Creating a wedding budget and it was encouraging. Thanks for the advice, keep writing and teaching us, thank you for these articles, may Jehovah continue blessing as he always does.
Thank you very much Kunda for reading and stay blessed.
God bless you all and enjoy your memorable honeymoon.
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