By SARAH MWANZA-
A MAN of Lusaka’s Libala Township has sued his wife for divorce claiming that she is boastful and does not respect him as his husband.
Bwalya Muyoba, 33, told the court that his wife was so boastful that she used to treat him as if he was not her husband.
Bwalya sued Christine Kamutoso,31, of Lusaka’s Northmead area for divorce after the two failed to
resolve their marital disputes.
Facts before the court were that the two got married in 2006 and have two children and that problems in their marriage started the same year they got married.
Muyoba told the court that besides being boastful, his wife never respected his family.
He said his wife was also a liar to the extent that she used to cry when lying just to convince other people that she was telling the truth.
Muyoba said he could no longer tolerate her because the nine years spent with her amounted to slavery.
He claimed that his wife was also violent that at one time she threatened to cut his throat using a kitchen knife.
The court also heard that Muyoba was forced to leave the matrimonial home to go and squat with his friend because of the violent behaviour of his wife.
Muyoba asked the court to grant him custody of their nine-year-old boy upon granting them divorce citing that while the two were on separation the wife was denying him access to the child.
In defence Kamutoso told the court that she was not ready to divorce her husband for the sake of their two children.
She said all the reasons that the husband had given in court as to why he wanted to divorce her were lies.
“From the time that my husband left our matrimonial home, he went to live with another woman and that is the main reason why he wants divorce,” she said.
Magistrate Sylvia Kabunda granted the two divorce and ordered Muyoba to compensate Kamutoso with K8,000.
The custody of the two children was given to the mother because the nine-year-old boy he wanted told the court that he wanted to be staying with the mother.
Muyoba was however, ordered to provide monthly child maintenance of K350.
Hubby turns wife into ‘property’
By SARAH MWANZA-
THE Chilenje Local Court has heard how a security officer of Lusaka’s Mtendere Township used to mistreat his wife on claims that she was her property.
Mavis Kashiku, 29, told the court that from the time the two got married in 2004, her husband had been abusing her claiming that she was his property because he paid K1,000 as bride price.
This was in a case in which Kashiku sued Herald Mainda, 35, for divorce after the two failed to resolve their marital dispute.
Facts before the court were that the two got married in 2004 and have three children. Problems in their marriage started shortly after the wedding.
Kashiku told the court that her husband used to beat her in the presence of the children and other people every time he was drunk.
She said her husband was not supporting the family, and that she was the one who was providing from her business.
She said her husband used to threaten to kill her which forced her to desert the matrimonial home on several occasion.
“When I told my mother and his father about the challenges we were going through they told me that it was only me who knew how painful it was to continue being married to my husband.
“Hence I had to decide either to continue staying with him or to sue him for divorce because both families were tired of sitting us down,” she said.
But Mainda told the court that he was not ready to divorce his wife because he still loved her and the children.
He said he used to beat his wife when the two had an augment not because that she was her property as she claimed.
He said all the challenges the two were facing in their marriage was as a result of him not being able to provide for the family the time he was not working.
“I was surprised last year when my wife just packed her things and told me that she was shifting as she had already found a house in Kaligalinga without telling me the reason,” he said.
Magistrate Sylvia Kabunda granted the two divorce and ordered Mainda to compensate Kashiku with K4,000.
‘Nothing wrong with her sitting on my laps’
By CHATULA KANGALI –
A THIRTY-YEAR-OLD-MAN of Nkwazi Township in Ndola has told a local court that he did not see anything wrong for another woman to sit on his laps in a bar when his wife caught him red handed.
Chola Njovu of 2324 Nkwazi Township told Chipulukusu Local Court Presiding Magistrate Paul Kayula that it was not wrong for him to put another woman on his laps while drinking alcohol in a bar.
He told the court that his wife, Janet Chimbala whom he had married for five years was over suspicious and accused him of dating the woman he found sitting on his laps in the bar.
“She thinks all the women that come to my bar are my girlfriends, she has been going to the bar to beat up women and accused them of dating me. This is the reason I want to divorce her,” he told the court.
In defence, Chimbala told the court that her husband was too promiscuous to an extent of answering phone calls from his girlfriends at night in her presence.
She told the court that he was saving all his girlfriends names in his mobile phone as ‘Mr’ and not by their names for her not to know.
“ I once found him with a woman he saved in his phone as ‘Mr Chenda’ sitting on his laps and sharing headsets while drinking alcohol in our bar. When I confronted them, the woman told me that Njovu did not tell her that he was married and was promising to marry her,” she told the court.
In passing the judgment, Mr Kayula said it was wrong for a married man to put another woman on his laps and to answer phone calls from girlfriends at home while with his wife.
He said he did not find anything wrong with the wife, adding that the complainant had motives of marrying one of his girlfriends.
“You want to divorce your wife because you want to marry one of your girlfriends. Every normal woman can react when she sees another woman sitting on her husband’s laps,” he said.
Mr Kayula granted the two divorce and asked the complainant to compensate his wife with K8, 000.
Woman wants hubby to divorce first wife
By JENNIPHER MUTOSHI –
A TWENTY SIX-YEAR-OLD woman of Lusaka’s Kalingalimga Township has asked her husband to divorce his first wife if he wants to stay with her.
Judith Chitika said she could not live in a polygamous marriage because she was not informed in advance that her husband Kings Muyati, 36, had another wife before marrying her.
Chitika sued Muyati for marriage reconciliation after she discovered that the defendant was still
married to his first wife when he asked for her hand in marriage.
Chitika told the court that while she was aware that Muyati had a child from his first marriage, she was not aware that he was still married to the first wife.
“I found out about the child when I visited his farm before we got married because he was being addressed as Joseph’s father. But I was not aware that this man was married to the mother of the child,” she said.
Chitika said she was surprised when a woman came to look for a National Registration Card (NRC) at their home just two days after the marriage.
The court heard that Muyati later left for Monze in Southern Province on promise that he was visiting his grandfather but only to inform his wife that he was visiting his first wife upon return.
She said Muyati later gave her K100 before sending her packing when he returned from Monze although the defendant went to take her back two days later.
“But things got worse after I got back because my husband stopped showing me his salary but instead he started getting my money from my handbag to support the other woman,” she said.
In his defence, Muyati told the court that Chitika agreed to be his second wife way before the two got married.
“I told her I have a wife and a child but she said it was fine because she didn’t want to break her heart as well as the heart of the other woman,” she said.
Muyati claimed that his wife lied to him that he only had two children when in actual fact he had four.
He told the court that he wanted to continue with his second wife so that they continue helping each other.
Magistrate George Kaoma said it was difficult for the court to reconcile the couple because she had refused to remain in the marriage.
Ndola man dumps slim wife
By CHATULA KANGALI –
A CHIPULUKUSU Local Court in Ndola has heard how a 51-year-old man left his wife in preference to his girlfriend who had big buttocks.
The court heard that Mastered Mwandila, 51, left his wife, Rebecca Mwandila, 52, because she was too slim and had no big buttocks.
Rebecca told Presiding Local Court Magistrate Paul Kayula that his husband told her that he was no longer interested in her because he had found a beautiful woman in Lubuto Township in Ndola.
“He left our matrimonial home in June last year. He is now staying in Lubuto with his girlfriend who he says has big buttock and hips than me,” she said.
She told the court that she was most of the times sick and that she was shocked to discovered that the man she had been married to for four years was secretly taking Anti-Retro-Viral (ARVs) drugs.
The complainant added that her husband refused to do an HIV test after the doctor requested the couple to do so.
In defence, Mwandila told the court that his wife drank too much alcohol to an extent of sleeping with his workmate.
He denied infecting the complainant with HIV, saying she had the disease all along because all the men she had been married to before had died.
“I am the fourth husband, all her three husbands are late, and I do not know what killed them. She cannot come here and say I am the one who infected her with the virus,” he told the court.
The defendant admitted staying at the girlfriend’s house because her wife was always drunk and fond of sleeping with young men.
In passing the judgment, Mr Kayula urged the woman to reduce on taking alcohol excessively and sleeping with other men as it would worsen her condition.
He however, granted the two divorce because they were both promiscuous and there was no love between them.
Hubby ordered to appreciate wife’s financial support
By SARAH MWANZA –
The Chilenje Local Court has told a 40-year-old jobless man of Lusaka’s Kalikiliki Township to appreciate his wife’s financial support instead of mistreating her.
Ngoza Tembo, 36, a second hand clothes trader sued Frank Phiri for marriage reconciliation after the two failed to resolve their marital disputes.
Facts before the court were that the two got married in 1991 and have six children, but for four years now, the two had been going through some marital disputes.
The court heard that Phiri had been burning the second hand clothes that her wife has been selling to sustain the family every time he was drunk.
She said Phiri had been without a job for four years now forcing her to single-handedly support the family.
However, Phiri has was always frustrated her by constantly burning her merchandise.
Tembo also told the court that her husband had always threatened to kill her together with the children.
She said last month her husband sprinkled petrol all over the house in an attempt to set it on fire.
Phiri said her husband was a violent man who had been beating her every time there was some misunderstanding.
She said her husband was also jealousy as he used to suspect her of having love affairs with other men.
“Every time when I leave the house my husband suspects me of going to visit other men hence upon returning he puts his fingers in my private parts so as to check if I was from having sex.
“I want my husband to change, I don’t want to divorce him because he is the father of my children and I still love him,” she said.
In his defence, Phiri told the court that all the problems the two had been facing was as a result of him not having a job.
He said his wife was always intimidating him because he was not working and she was the one supporting the family financially.
But Magistrate George Kaoma reconciled the couple and advised Phiri to be supporting his wife by helping her in her business rather than frustrating her.
